Anchor

Last friday i asked a boy of 10 years old. 'Hows your boat going on?' 
He replied, 'what did you say?'
I repeated the questions with explanation, 'whether your boat of life is sailing smoothly, hows current, up-downs, joy, boring....' [I must have said more words, but I can't recall them now.]
He replied 'I have put an anchor, right now!'
'Ohh!' I exclaimed, asking question to continue conversation 'but boat is mean to sail.'
He responded, 'Yes, right now vacation is going on. It's bit boring but good'. 
Then he said something which blew me away.
He added, 'size of an anchor is big. If I have bigger than this i can't move or even can get topple down.' [He had said something very similar to this. again, can't recollect exact words, which he spoke.]

I was stunned. In Awe! I thanked him.
Anchor.

One of the Dictionary meaning, apart from naval use and T.V. or event Shows is,

 a person or thing that provides stability or confidence in an otherwise uncertain situation.

Now, assume your boat (life , with your loaded living philosophy, will power, psychological taste & attributes and all what consists your 'I') and size of anchor or anchors you keep (religion, perspectives, philosophy, masters/guru, dream).
There has to be a right proportion between size of boat and destination you want to reach with size of anchor you require in your life.
Many times, i see people who keeps high anchor are still at shore, they never able to lift that anchor and sail to other shore. They feel very secure, can tell you all in words what their anchor is all about and how strong it is. But in their own life nothing. In fact highest, noblest, ideal is been summed up as a small anchor.

Or some time they haven't got that strong faith or high anchor to safeguard in midst of storm. 

while in some cases, may be many we have very big physical ship but our anchor of life are so small. [ All thugs are there to rob them away, by selling lockets of anchor. 😉😜]

Thanks to him, i landed up onto another shore. Little one with great Insights. He talked about many other things. May be some other day and other time, I might share. Grateful to Divine, for sending sweet anchoring moments in life.

One learning of 2018 : Dialogue

Ending the year with one of the most important element of learning. A practice as well as learning which happen through out the year. At many front of life still not able to apply or be effective.

Dialogue according to me is a open sincere communication with...

1. Oneself at all level and parts of being. Physical, Emotional, Mental, spiritual.
2. Other beings
3.Ones surrounding - Nature

Why?

One of the best tool to unleash and discover ones true self.

I learnt a process on dialogue during retreat held up at Krishnamurti study centre, bangalore @ Valley School. and still await to read, do, discuss on dialogue under the light of few materials collected. Sharing one part here.

"A dialogue is very important. It is a form of communication in which question and answer continue till a question is left without an answer. Thus the question is suspended between the two persons involved in this answer and question. It is like a bud with untouched blossoms . . . If the question is left totally untouched by thought, it then has its own answer because the questioner and answerer, as persons, have disappeared. This is a form of dialogue in which investigation reaches a certain point of intensity and depth, which then has a quality that thought can never reach." 

-Jiddu Krishnamurti

On other side, found it very difficult to practice at professional world which is full of Caprice. While at relationship front, struggle is on. Most of the time infact always we are more interested on answer , that to of our own preference. It's a practice in dialogue where we can slowly let go our perceptions, views, beliefs and preferences. Our attachments binding us to rome in same periphery during communication. Not allowing is to take a flight nor to dive deep in multiple questions and answer.

Dialogue with oneself has become so crucial that it reveals our inner and outer crust. Allowing us to Be.

When one is ready to change, other side is also willing than language is not a barrier. Silent dialogue becomes more effective and powerful.
If willingness is not there. Dialogues turns into discussions, debate and quarrel. While one person inner peace can bring sense of dialogue in any conversation.

Often I find myself on inner dialogue while I am still on work or conversation with someone else. Many insights have come when I am on inner dialogue while conversation is On at outer level. Somewhere benefiting both of us.

Looking forward for more such meaningful communication with self, Self and you all as part of Self.

eti Shubham